Mike is on disability for mental issues. I do not have his official diagnosis but he says serious depression, low self-esteem and lack of motivation. Mike is 24 and was adopted from south america at about 6 months. He knows nothing about his birth parents. He was raised as an only child. I believe he feels his adoptive father did
not really want him. He gets along fine with mom. However, he doesnt live at home. It seems the father doesn't want him living there. I believe Mike doesn't really want to live there as well. Mike also has drinking problem. I don't want to label him an alcoholic but he drinks definitely above average. He drinks mostly at his rented room. His parents control his money and pay the rent for him. I have known Mike for over 5 years.
We hang out and communicate quite often. We both could be labeled as bisexual. He is not my boyfriend but we have a relationship that could be taken that way. Obviously, Mike has a limited income and I do help him out. He says I have made a difference in his life and he is thankful to have me in his life. I do not give him cash directly due to him buying alcohol. I care about him and do have feelings for him.
He says the same. He stopped taking his prescribed medicine about 5 months ago. I do not believe he is active with his psychitrist for some time now. Mike is fine most of time but I have noticed some changes in him since mid November. He seems more agitated by small stuff. He also seemed to isolate himself on and off with at least me for several weeks in December. He said it had nothing to do with me and gets like that with everybody. He saw it upset and confused me.
Mike only has a couple other friend. His other friend told me Mike is lonely and manic depressive. I believe the lonely part is most likely
true but I have no idea about manic depressive. Mike calls me his best friend due to amount of time I give him plus helping him by taking him to restaurants, gas, and occasional gifts. Mike is intelligent and off hand does not appear to have problems. Mike also lived with my brother and me for 3 months in early 2011. He moved out claiming my brother got on his nerves. I beleive he imagined this. He put himself in the woods for over a week till he rented where he currently stays. Mike told me he quit drinking but started up again about 3 weeks later. He also started smoking pot with an ex roommate over the summer. I warned him several times this person was trouble and it took him about 2 months to see this. He said he wanted nothing to do with this person anymore but after 3 months hes back on Mike's facebook. I believe he went Friday nite to this mans house for a party. I am concerned about this. Mike mentioned going to AA meetings
not long ago but now says its not really for him. He talked a few days ago about finding a new therapist. I would love to see this.
Do u think I need to encourage him to do this and show my emotions to him? He wants me to sleep close to him fairly often and wants me to hold his hand while hes drivng. We do have a good sexual relationship.
However, I just feel stressed out over his issues lately and I have been concerned about him for a long time now. A major part of me wants
to continue being there but now a small part of me feels like I need to cut back. I know he would be upset by this. When we were not speaking much a few weeks ago he said he had several dreams about me.
He told me had a dream about me the other night when I was with him.
He says he has love for me. I appreciate your guidance.