I don't know if you want to continue or not. I can see how frustrated you are. But you are an exceptionally good guy. You're a man of values. And that's why I'm willing to take the time. But I know this is frustrating to you. I'm going to press this time that I'm answering instead of asking for more information, so that if you want to end the conversation here, I'd like to ask you if you would press ACCEPT first as that's the only way I'm credited here.
Rick, you've presented me with a number of possibilities. And i don't know which is the most accurate one.
The first one is that yes, your employees are important in your life. And yes, it's an important value to worry about their welfare after their loyalty all these years. But your marriage must come first. They will have to take care of themselves with unemployment benefits, etc. Your marriage can't be second to their lives.
Or maybe that's not the real situation. Maybe:
You have a wife who's used to the good life you've provided and wants both the good life and Mr. Happy. And you can't give her both. Maybe she's become a bit narcissistic and is looking out only for her own comforts and wants and needs. And she's not supportive of you and doesn't learn how to calm you when you're stressed or getting over the top with anger.
Which sounds more accurate?
I'm not really sure from what you've told me. I've worked with a LOT of guys. And very few tell me at the first that they are yelling and raging way too much and too often. They most often say "once in a while". I've had guys say that until their wives leave and then they are crying (no shame in that) and they admit that maybe it was way too often and she had enough. So I have to balance all this with that possibility, Rick.
You're an honorable man. Is she selfish or is she fed up? I think that's the key here for you. How you answer this will determine whether you are right that you should let her go or whether it's time to let the employees go.
I wish you the very best!
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