Hi, Rick! You know, to give you the best answer, I think I should ask you a few questions first that will help define the problem and the situation.
Why do you think nothing will help?
What kind of help does your wife want you to get? For what?
Would you and she be willing to go to couples therapy? That way you could both work on making changes.
Any extra information that will help, feel free to share.
Thanks for the response.
Won't help, because they can't change all my responsiblities.
Wife says that I need anger management.
We tried it all ready.
Rick, I know you want an answer as quickly as possible. But this is your life and I want to make sure that the answer I give you is the most fitting to your specific situation and who you are. So I need to ask just a little more:
Rick, you're a man who deals with problems all day long. You've set up a problem here that you say has no solution: your wife will leave you unless you change; you can't change because you've already gone to anger management classes and you have all these responsibilities that make you angry.
The only solution you've left us is her leaving.
What in the equation can we change other than her leaving?
Just so you know we've been married for 31 years and we have 2 daughters 23 and 24. Things have been rough for the last 21/2 years, about as long as we start losing money and problems with her brother. I just can't see how somone can change my work situation.
Its probable best for her to leave. See just doesn't understand what I have to deal with everyday. She thinks that someone can wave a magic wand and thinks will get better. I love her but its not enough.
Thanks for your help.
I wish you the very best!
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