Thank you for your question. Before providing recommendations, I have a few questions. When did these behaviors first start? What makes you concern that she is hiding something?
well she has always kinda been head strong but it seems like this past year she has gotten worse with her attitude and bad behavior. We live with my mom and she also has visitation with her dads parents. I think shes hiding something because every time i ask her about how her visitation was she kinda tries to avoid the whole topic which really makes me worry. When she does happen to mention anything about the visit its always something nasty like sexual or something inappropriate for her age.
What sexual comments does she make?
well for example a couple of weeks ago she mentioned that her grandmother was taking showers with her which is really weird to me considering she can take her own baths with very little supervision. She has started saying sex a lot like she understands what it means. She says it in the correct contents a majority of the time and we do not talk about that at out house. She has also has been having this obsession with having babies.Like she knows in detail about it like shes seen it in a movie or something. That is not so much sexual but it kinda set off an alarm. Those are the most recent that i can remember.
what do you mean by correct content about sex?
like she will be playing with her barbies and will like rub them together and say something like "ken lets sex in the bathroom." So what i mean is she will use the word correctly in sentences like she understands
I see...that is definitely disconcerting...have you asked her how she learned about the word "sex"
yes i asked her and she just avoids it completely or acts like she doesnt know what im talkign about.
I see...have you asked her father if he or his mother noticed any peculiar behaviors by her?
Her dad is not really in the picture, he is in the army. As for his mom she doesnt ever seem to notice anything.
Do you know if there are anyone else in the household when with the paternal grandmother
She has a lot of relatives that come over constantly . But its just her and her husband that live in the house.
and her husband is the father or stepfather of your daughter's dad?
He is the step dad.
My suggestion for you at this point is to take your daughter to a psychologist regarding your concerns. A child psychologist with experience with trauma is the person you should look for
ok thank you so much
In the meantime, please continue to tell your daughter about
and that she should not feel bad if someone is inappropriately touching her
ok i def will
I wish you the best
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