My Parents separated a year ago. I recently found out that my father started a relationship with a work collegue a few weeks after they separated. My Mother has been in and out of hospital with depression and is still struggling with life without my father. She still holds hope for them. She doesn't know about his relationship with another women. I feel that I shouldn't tell her as it will send her over the edge. But I feel so guilty for keeping it from her. What should I do?
I am so disapointed in my dad. I never thought that he would do anything like this. My mother always thought there was something going on with this women but I always thought she was paranoid. This women is 12 years younger than my dad.
Mum and dad have not spoken since she left. She felt she had no choice as she felt he hated her. Everything she did irritated him. While they were still together she was in hospital with depression after being bullied at work and my father never visited her once. He thinks it is all in her mind.
This is a very long story. The whole family has been torn apart. Relationships are going to be beyond repair as no body is talking about anything. I have recently had a baby and instead of enjoying this lovely time. I have been worried about Mum, Dad and the family. I am very sad that things can't be celebrated as I am worried about the disfunction in the family and aqwardness.
I think he would prob write. But he is to gutless to speak in person.
He is no longer in a relationship. So he says it ended months ago.
I said to him that he needs to speak things through with mum. So there is some closure on everything. But he said he can't speak to her because he doesn't want to hurt her anymore then he already has. He said he loves her but can't live with her.
My mother would be homeless if it wasn't for my sister and I. Dad has no idea what we have gone through. My sister hasn't spoken to him since it has all happened. I know if she finds out about it she will never talk to him again.
She currently rents a room from a friend. Up until then she was living between me and my sisters house.
He says that he is currently not in a relationship.
I think you are def spot on when u say that he did everything he could to make the separation happen with my mother.
Thanks for your help. I feel that it would help mum to move on if she was to know. I will not say anything. But she has said to me she is not ready to hear from him that the relationship is over.