Ask a Psychiatrist and Get Answers to Mental Health Questions ASAP
It's so good to hear from you and know that you and Eve are so happy!
I think your idea is wonderful. The only glitch I could think of is how other people will react. They may see her rings and think she got married over the holiday. She may have to respond to a few inquires about it, but if you feel she won't mind, then go ahead and give her both. She always has the choice to just wear the rings at home too.
You may want to explain your thoughts up front to her so she understands that you will need the ring back until the wedding. But once she gets her engagement ring I don't think she will mind at all.
I am glad to hear her medication is working well for her. This has to be such a happy time for you both. Congratulations! And if I don't get to talk with you for the holiday, Merry Christmas.
I do think that separating the rings after the new year is fine. As long as she knows why, I think she won't mind. It sounds like a beautiful ring set!
Do you mean she wants to wait to get engaged until after her check up in April? Is she worried about her health and that is why?
Thanks Marvin for your response.
If you want to give her the rings on Christmas Eve I think it's a good idea to do so. It sounds like Eve is feeling that going blind means she can't burden you or she would feel guilty. She may also think that going blind means her life is over. That may be why she is trying to put you off of proposing to her. But proposing to her and reassuring her that you love her through better or worse may be just what she needs to hear.
I understand Eve's fear. She is reacting in a very normal way. The possibility of going blind would frighten anyone because everything in the world is geared for people who see. Blindness means adjusting to a whole new life. But the main fear is the loss of control that blindness represents. Feeling out of control of her life may be motivating Eve to try to gain some control now so she feels more normal.
I hope she is willing to talk to a therapist about how she feels. It's vital she has a chance to work out her fear. She may also want to look into services for the blind when she feels ready to, so she is prepared and knows what to expect.
I agree, if you feel Christmas Eve will work then go ahead. I think Eve is experiencing a great upheaval in her life right now and maybe be unsure about how to feel. She is possibly facing blindness and she is on some strong medication. She is probably feeling very confused, upset and scared. She may want to put off the engagement because of the reasons we talked about plus all the stress she is experiencing. But an engagement is good news and though she may be hesitant, your reassurance will go a long way in making her feel better. Just be sure to be supportive and reassure her and she should begin to feel better.
P.S. It is good that the doctor feels they caught Eve's problem early. This gives her some hope!
I agree with you. Reassuring her is exactly what she needs now. She also needs some way to feel more in control and your reassurance will do that. And giving her the ring will tell her that you have all the confidence in the world that you can cope with whatever she is going through. Basically, it says that you are with her, no matter what.
Kate ! I share the same thoughts as you ! Ps: we just visited on the phone for 45 minutes ! eve: finished her gft wrapping & is doing well ! m
That's great she's doing so well. Best wishes for tomorrow! I'm sure Eve will be thrilled. She is a lucky gal.
Kate Thank You ! ps: Everyone tells us we are a Complimentary couple !to each other & others as well ! m