Hey, Im really stuck on something and am hoping to obtain a little advise from 1) an expert and 2) hopefully a female since this problem Im having is with the opposite sex...
My question is: Is there anyway to salvage a huge mistake like being clingy after a first date?
Now I know that this is a deal breaker for sure and Im definatly getting that reaction from her. We met on an online dating site and I am 10 years older than her and am successful in my career and make an above average income and she is a fourth year med student who is also ambitious and successful.
She sought me out and made the initial contact and our connection was amazing. Within one week, we were talking/texting every day and went out of our first date wihich was a very nice evening.
I have been single for six years and have never had feelings for someone like this but a couple of times in my life. Im not by any means a desperate, boring, or clingy person as Ive been very happy being single and am in peace with myself..
Anyway..heres what happened. I lost my mind! Emotions over took all logical thinking and I suddenly found myself with extreme anxiety
and depression when she stopped talking to me and I didnt eat or sleep for several days. I noticed that she was reading my emails but never replying to them and the more she ignored the worse the aniety got which made
every message I sent thereafter more and more rediculous.
After about a week I did
finally hear back from her saying she was just busy and to slow down. I did send two more messages after that appologizing to her and told her I really dont know what got into me and that I just really liked her..
I finally just stopped all contact...I was planning on just leaving her alone for a couple of weeks and defintaly until after the holidays and maybe check in on her? Or should I just never contact her and take the stance that if she is intersted then she will eventually contact me? And if I do contact her, what do i say to not make myself look anymore rediculous than I already feel?