Thanks for bringing your question to JustAnswer.
This is an area I have a lot of experience in, as my specialty is trauma. I would suggest seeking a therapist who is trained in trauma work, and specifically someone who does EMDR. This is a therapy that is used to treat trauma, is research-proven to work, and works relatively quickly in comparison to traditional talk therapy.
Here's a link to a CBS news video about the method. You'll see the client using several pieces of equipment in the video, but in real life only one is used. CBSvideo report on EMDR
Men tend to like this type of therapy, as it doesn't involve a lot of talking. Here's a link to a directory of therapists trained in EMDR. Therapists trained in EMDR
You may find additional therapists in this directory as well--use the search feature to find people who use EMDR. First put in your zip code. On the next page, on the left, choose Treatment Orientation, then EMDR. http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_search.php
Any therapist trained in EMDR can also address any depressive symptoms you may be having.
I wish you all the best,