Hi Marvin, it's good to hear from you! I am sorry I did not get back to you sooner. I usually take Sundays off.
I am so glad to hear that you and Eve have reached the stage where the two of you are working out your differences together. This is a good sign.
Eve is right that she is to be the center of your life and come first, right after God in your life. But it is a difficult place to be in when you have a mother who needs you, and for good reason. It's not like your mother is emotionally needy like Eve's mother and it is easier to move away from the demands. Physical illness requires care, and your mother needs help.
Have you both thought about trying to get extra help for your mother? If your siblings rely on you to care for your mother, then they should be contributing in other ways to her care. Maybe they might be willing to pitch in together to provide a part time nurse to be with your mother in times when you want to be elsewhere. Also, have you contacted your local Area Agency on Aging? Depending on where you live, they may be able to offer you numerous services to help including aides, nurses, evaluations, Meals on Wheels and other caregiver services. Some even offer you a stipend for caring for your mother as primary caregiver. Try contacting your local social services department for information.
There are also ways you can make Eve feel number one in your life. Send her flowers, set up special dates with her, surprise her with a gift, be affectionate, and tell her how special she is to you. Treat her like a queen and you will make her feel number one. Here are some resources to help give you ideas and to use with Eve to bring you closer:
Our Love Is Here to Stay: A Daily Devotional for Couples by XXXXX XXXXX and Lois Evans
How to Be Your Wife's Best Friend: 365 Ways to Express Your Love by Dan Bolin and John Trent
What Makes a Woman Feel Loved: Understanding What Your Wife Really Wants by Emilie Barnes