Hi, I'd like to help you with your question.
Can you tell me a bit more about your situation? Is your fear just with the opposite sex or do you have problems overall socially?
What kind of anxiety symptoms do you have?
What kind of treatment are you receiving for your anxiety?
Thank you for the additional information.
It sounds like it could be a couple of different things you are experiencing here. One could be a social phobia. Social phobias cause you to feel self critical and fearful of making a mistake in a social situation. So you tend to avoid being exposed to social situations and any thought of one makes you experience anxiety symptoms.
You could also have a phobia called Heterophobia which is a fear of the opposite sex or Gynophobia which is a fear of women. Depending on your specific symptoms, you could have any of these disorders. The root of this fear is the possibility of rejection. But as with any phobia, the treatment of the phobia and symptoms is the primary target. Once you do not experience panic and/or know how to control it, you can overcome this feeling. You will be able to develop a relationship without having to worry about fear and panic.
To deal with any phobia, there are many things you can do to help yourself. One is therapy. Being on medication is great to help with your symptoms, but it only helps the symptoms. They do not help the underlying cause. Therapy can not only provide support, it can help deal with the cause and help you find relief. To find a therapist, talk to your doctor about a referral. Or search on line at http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/.
You can also use self help to address your fears. Here are some resources to help you:
The Anxiety & Phobia Workbook, Fourth Edition by Edmund J. Bourne
Dying of Embarrassment: Help for Social Anxiety and Phobia by Barbara G. Markway, C. Alec Pollard, Teresa Flynn and Cheryl N. Carmin
The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety: A Guide to Breaking Free from Anxiety, Phobias, and Worry Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by John P. Forsyth and Georg H. Eifert
You can find these books on Amazon.com or your local library may have them for you.
You can also try support groups on line. They may help you connect to others and find support. Here is a resource to help:
I hope this has helped you,Kate