Thank you for writing in here.
We all experience big emotions such as anger, sadness, fear, happiness etc.
You can learn how to manage negative feelings in a number of ways.
I would advise you to practice some exercises such as breathing exercises, meditation
, and visualization when you have big, negative emotions.
Dr. Andrew Weil teaches breathing exercises which may relax you and free you from sadness:
1. The Stimulating Breath is adapted from a yogic breathing technique. Its aim is to raise vital energy and increase alertness.
Inhale and exhale rapidly through your nose, keeping your mouth closed but relaxed. Your breaths in and out should be equal in duration, but as short as possible. This is a noisy breathing exercise.
Try for three in-and-out breath cycles per second. This produces a quick movement of the diaphragm, suggesting a bellows. Breathe normally after each cycle.
Do not do for more than 15 seconds on your first try. Each time you practice the Stimulating Breath, you can increase your time by five seconds or so, until you reach a full minute.
2. Relaxing Breath Exercise -
Exhale completely through your mouth, making a whoosh sound.
Close your mouth and inhale quietly through your nose to a mental count of four.
Hold your breath for a count of seven.
Exhale completely through your mouth, making a whoosh sound to a count of eight.
This is one breath. Now inhale again and repeat the cycle three more times for a total of four breaths.
3. Breath Counting -
Sit in a comfortable position with the spine straight and head inclined slightly forward. Gently close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Then let the breath come naturally without trying to influence it. Ideally it will be quiet and slow, but depth and rhythm may vary.
To begin the exercise, count "one" to yourself as you exhale.
The next time you exhale, count "two," and so on up to "five."
Then begin a new cycle, counting "one" on the next exhalation.
There are a number of meditation techniques.
Visualization is also effective to relax our mind, refocus our mind on positive, healing images, overcome the feeling of unhappiness and negative thoughts.
The audio "Chakra Healing: Guided Meditation and Creative Visualization Aimee R. Shea" Format: MP3 Download" may be helpful for visualization practices.
Please let me know if you have more questions or I have overlooked any. Warm regards,