It sounds like you have sacrificed a lot to be the co addict. This happens a lot when people are addicted. The addict involves the family in the charade and they remain stuck in their own cycle. You would benefit immensely from AlAnon even if he does not go to meetings himself. You would get the support you need to draw boundaries in your life. You can't fix anyone else so start with these groups so that you have some support and guidance. It is up to you how to decrease your ability to tolerate his addiction. If you become complacent nothing will change. Often when people give up a lot they get resentful and this can lead to complacency. Join forces with your daughter and get control of your household. It is up to you to tell her to get off the computer and join your fight. She is at that age where it is all about her. Start today by getting her to address the addiction in your household. If he doesn't want to get clean then you have some important decisions to make. Lay out some boundaries and see where to start by considering the resistance you get from him. Help him find treatment but don't do it for him.
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