Hi! You know, to give you the best answer, I think I should ask you a few questions first that will help define the problem and the situation.
Your questions are difficult: the first question only he or she can answer. There is no way for me as a psychologist to tell what their relationship is like.
Your second question may require an attorney to advise you. Why would you be ruined? Are you not going to have child support and alimony as part of the divorce?
Do you have good support from your congregation?
What is the relationship with his mother like?
Has he ever had any mental health issues? Has he had any treatment? When? What type? How did it go?
Any extra information that will help, feel free to share.
I see you are offline at this time and I may be logged off for the night before you reply, but go ahead and reply to these questions and I’ll answer as soon as I log on tomorrow. Okay?