Thank you for contacting Just Answer. I am truly sorry for what you have experienced. I certainly cannot say whether he is Bipolar or not. Anyone telling you that he is would be in error since we know nothing really about him and so cannot diagnose him unless we did an in-person diagnostic evaluation. As for you, I think it would help you a great deal if you sought out a therapist so that you don't have to deal with the pain of this all by yourself.
As for your concern for him, frankly I think you are being too nice. I certainly don't like how he treated you. How terrible and inconsiderate he was.
That is what the people around me see too. But I really think the change was so sudden and so profound that it must be more than a flawed personality on his part.
He had a lot of trouble with his family, namely with his parents divorce and a very aggressive and abusive behavious from his dad towards his mom and him and his brother.
I am very concerned with him because I know he is now very lonely in Canada and the way I see him talking seems nothing like the person I met more than a year ago. He is always negative, aggressive and on the edge. And he was such a sensitive person and such a joyful presence. It seems like I am sseing a completely different person
So that's probably why he got scared and ran when you were ready to be with him. It was safe before.
Well, again, he's too scared to have an intimate relationship. He certainly needs therapy to work out the issues from his past.
Do you think he would be willing to talk to you or did he run away for good?
I am sure he does... but he is very reluctant on going to find help in therapy.
No...lately he can't talk to em at all
he always ends up being aggressive and we always end up with him mad at me
I don't know what to do anymore
I like him a lot and I am concerned as a friend... I have no hopes about us being together, he moved for good. But I am concerned about his well-being
In any case the fact is that while we were separating I became very broken, needy and insecure which led to him being fed up with me. I had a lot of melt downs and I think he grew tired of me and now sees me as just evil.
So right now I don't know what I can do to help him. But I really think he has a problem.
There is nothing that you can do to help him if he won't even talk to you. It seems to me from what you have said and that is that he saw you as broken, needy and insecure and that he got fed up with you, then the first step for you is to seek out a therapist and pull your life together --- who knows that may help him be less scared of you.
Yes...I will definitely do that! Can you try to explain me why is it that, even though I was always very independent and joyfull, why it broke me so bad when this man pulled completely from me so suddenly? I feel like I became emotionally dependent of him.. I decided for a couple of times to not reach for him anymore, not to even ask him how he is, and I can never do it!
And I was way less into this relationship in the begining than he was! He was the clingy, needy one in the beginning!
Sometimes I describe it as if I have been sucked to this crazy emotional ride and in the end I was left alone riding it...
Hey, come on, don't be so hard on yourself. Who wouldn't feel the way you do when someone does to them what hew did to you. Yah, you're right on --- he sucked you in.
I feel like it! But the strangest feeling is that in the end I am still the one looking for him to be ok with me. ANd he is still hte one angry at me! I guess I just need therapy!