Hi, I'd like to help you with your question.
You do not need to take medications unless your anxiety is interfering with your ability to live your life. And in that case, a small dose of something such as Ativan, taken as needed, would probably be enough. Admitting you have a problem with anxiety and seeking help is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of strength. You can face this and conquer it. And you are not alone. Anxiety is one of the most common problems in mental health.
Therapy is considered the best treatment for anxiety and panic. Anxiety is one of the most easiest issues to treat and therapy has been proven to be the most effective method. You mentioned seeing a therapist but it does not sound like they were very helpful. Sometimes, finding a therapist is like finding a doctor. You need to try a few before you find one you can work with. To find a new therapist, ask your doctor for a referral. Or you can search on line at http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/.
Understanding why you feel as you do helps as well. When a person develops anxiety, they feel more than the usual nervousness or anxiety. The feelings become overwhelming and take over their life. They begin to fear how they feel when anxious. They feel they can no longer control how they feel so they develop a fear of losing control. The person who feels anxious focuses on the sensations and feelings that reinforce the fear. Once the fear cycle starts, it is hard to stop. But therapy and self help can change the anxiety and help you learn different ways of thinking.
Part of learning how to rid yourself of anxiety is learning how to relax. When you feel anxious, let your body relax. It seems wrong to do that, but when you allow the anxiety to wash over you, it cannot take hold and make you more anxious. Here are some resources to help you learn how to do this and more:
The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook by Edmund J. Bourne
The Cognitive Behavioral Workbook for Anxiety: A Step-by-Step Program by Bill Knaus Ed.D. and Jon Carlson Psy.D. Ed.D.
I hope this has helped you,Kate