hi and thanks for getting back to me. I've never been able to reach an orgasm and have no idea what I'm missing out on, especially when my friends talk about how good it is for them etc.
I'm taking Efexor-XR 150 mg
Hello there many women can't reach orgasm by intecourse. Effexor does affect your ability to reach an orgasm also. I wonder also what feelings and thoughts do you have about having sex? Have you bought book on women's sexuality? Have you explored your own body to see what you like? Do you feel comfortable talking about your fantacies to your boyfriend? Are you religious?
I have heard women's sensitivity increases after they do Kegels
Kegel exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which support the uterus, bladder and bowel. You can do Kegel exercises discreetly just about anytime, whether you're driving in your car, sitting at your desk or relaxing on the couch. You can even do Kegel exercises when you're pregnant. Start by understanding what Kegel exercises can do for you - then follow step-by-step instructions for contracting and relaxing your pelvic floor muscles.
Many factors can weaken your pelvic floor muscles, from pregnancy and childbirth to aging and being overweight. This may allow your pelvic organs to descend and bulge into your vagina - a condition known as pelvic organ prolapse. The effects of pelvic organ prolapse range from uncomfortable pelvic pressure to leakage of urine. Pelvic organ prolapse isn't inevitable, however. Kegel exercises can help delay or even prevent pelvic organ prolapse and the related symptoms.
I have a feeling that you need to get comfortable with your own body and your own sexuality. I also have the feeling that asking your doctor for another antidepressent would help. Also be very open with your boyfriend about your own lack of experience and not knowing your body. Assure him that you find him atractive. Communication about sex is very important. You may need increase amount of stimulation or oral sex to reach an orgasm. Many women do not have orgasms by intercourse about 40%
Kegel exercises - along with counseling and sex therapy - may also be helpful for women who have persistent problems reaching orgasm.
It takes diligence to identify your pelvic floor muscles and learn how to contract and relax them. Here are some pointers: