Hello there and thanks for asking JA. I wonder how old are your grandparents. Most older folks have medicare and can get medical if they can't afford the care. Maybe telling your grandfather that he worked hard and how others can help him also. There are social workers for the enderly and programs that can help. As for getting them to a psychologist if they are not open to that I think just taking them to their primary doctor's will help with getting diagnosed for dementia. Maybe getting them to participate in their church or other activity they enjoy can take their minds of the negative TV news. Can you tell me a bit about the dementia you see. I wonder if it is dementia or age related memory decline. Can you give me some symptoms? Stroke and diabetis can also cause mental decline.
I am sorry about your grandparents. If things get worst your mother can become your grandmother's guardian. Your mom would have to call social services talk about your mom and ask for the steps to have your grandmother conserve. That really upsets family dynamics and your grandmother may become upset. It is a very difficult time. The best you can do is have someone that your grandmother looks up to like a priest or a sister or brother to talk to her about seeing her medical doctor. Your mother may have to put your grandmother to the hospital even if your grandmother does not want to. Maybe talking to her about things such as high blood pressure and heart disease can be the way to get her to see the doctor. When the elderly have dementia they don't realize they do because the mind fills out the blanks of time lost with possible events and that is why they become confused. Call the institute on aging or the center. I am sorry that there is not a better answer to this. You and your mother will have to be prepared for a fight with your grandmother. She can continue to refuse to go and you can call Adult Protective Services to see if there is help in your town.