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Hi, I'd like to help you with your problem.
Can you tell me a bit more about when you started to feel stress was interfering in your personal relationship?
How did the stress originate?
How have you been handling your stress so far?
Thank you for the additional information. It helps.
I think what you describe as your OCD may be a touch of perfectionism. There is a sense that if you are not perfect and all is not accomplished by the end of the day (and done well) that you are not ok yourself. As a female, this is more ingrained just as part of your genetics and social expectations.
You do have a very demanding schedule. But it sounds like there may also be other underlying issues that are unresolved for you. Your schedule does not allow you to pace yourself and therefore keep your emotions more under control. The demands on you are great and give you little time to reflect or to calm yourself. And in general, whenever demands are put on you and you are not able to answer them, your ability to cope lowers and your emotions come out.
The fact that you are doing Tae Kwon Do, which is intense training, and still feeling frustrated and angry says that these feelings are originating from elsewhere. Your schedule is just demanding enough to allow them to surface.
In your case, short term therapy would be the best option. You need to talk about your feelings and explore what might be underlying your issues with anger. I say short term because from what you have told me, this does not seem to be a deep psychological issue. Learning to cope better and addressing the origins of your anger would be enough at this point.
If you want to find a therapist, try asking your doctor for a referral. Or you can search on line at http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/.
There are ways you can help yourself right now. I'm sure you have heard of the normal stress relieving techniques, but they do work. Deep breathing and progressive muscle relaxation are two of the best ways to center yourself and create calm in your body. Here is a link to help you with these and other techniques:
If you cannot cut back on your schedule, you can try to find better ways to adapt to the stress it causes. One is to learn better ways to express your feelings. Right now your only outlet is being frustrated and lashing out. Instead, think of ways you could express yourself more productively. Even if that means yelling into a pillow every day, that is ok. Buy a special one and bring it with you.
Also, use humor as much as possible. Watch comedy, get a joke book, or train yourself to see the humor in situations. Spend more time with people who make you laugh or see things optimistically.
Look at the bigger picture. Over time, is this a schedule you can keep up? If not, start making plans to cut back where you can. Search for someone who can teach for you a few nights here or there to give you a break. Plan a long weekend. Give yourself something to look forward to.
Here is another link to help you find more ideas on how to help yourself cope with the stress:
To help your relationship, you may want to tell your boyfriend that you recognize this problem and you are working on it. Make it up to him somehow then include him in your recovery.
I hope this has helped you,