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I HAVE MOVED TO A NEW CITY MY KIDS ARE ALL OFF TO COLLEGE AND

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I HAVE MOVED TO A NEW CITY MY KIDS ARE ALL OFF TO COLLEGE AND I FEEL SUPER HIGH ANXIETY. I FOUND A NEW LOW PAYING JOB PRETTY QUICKLY BUT I AM VERY DEPRESSED. I STARTED TAKING PRISTIQ TO HOPEFULLY HELP ABOUT 3 WEEKS AGO BUT AT THIS MOMENT I AM VERY SAD. IS THIS NORMAL? WILL IT GET BETTER BECAUSE I AM SCARED RIGHT NOW.
Submitted: 5 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  TherapistMarryAnn replied 5 years ago.

Hi, I'd like to help you with your question.

 

Whenever you are faced with a big change in your life, depression and anxiety can set in, especially if you are apprehensive about the change.

 

Having your children leave home, moving to a new city and getting a new job are all high on the list of stressful events in life. Although it sounds like you are doing all the right (and very healthy) things to help yourself, it may take time for you to adjust.

 

You need to consider first if you feel this was a good or bad change in your life. If it was good, then adjusting will take a while and can still cause stress, but it is easier on you than if you feel this was a bad change.

 

Feeling these changes as negative or bad may cause you to experience a grief response. When we feel a change is bad, we feel we have lost something. This causes grief over the loss of the old and the strain of adjusting to the "new normal". Along with depression, anxiety can develop over the change.

 

What you can do is to keep trying to recover. Explore your feelings and talk about them to others. There are very few people who do not understand loss and feeling upset over change. If you feel that this is not working, try talking to a counselor. You can find a therapist through asking your doctor for a referral, or search on line at http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/.

 

Recognize that you may be grieving and learn more about how grief works and how to recover. Also, learning more about anxiety can also help you respond to when you feel anxious. Here are some resources to help:

 

http://helpguide.org/mental/grief_loss.htm

 

http://helpguide.org/mental/stress_management_relief_coping.htm

 

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Empty-Nests/support-group

 

 

I hope this has helped you,
Kate

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