Thank you for writing in here.
I am so sorry to hear about your situation.
It sounds like you have been under enormous stress as you lost your father in such a tragic and nonsense way, separation from your husband, and your son's serious injury from cooking.
You suffer from depression and anxiety. You may need GRIEF COUNSELING as your depression has to do with your father's tragic death.
It's common for people to fall into BEREAVEMENT-RELATED DEPRESSION after losing their loved one.
I would advise you to see a psychotherapist to express and process your feelings and thoughts and get advice and support WEEKLY.
A combination of psychotherapy and pharmacotherapy are considered to be effective to treat Depression including BEREAVEMENT-RELATED DEPRESSION.
You may ask your doctor for a psychologist/psychotherapist that you can work with WEEKLY.
Or, you can search a licensed psychologist on internet- such as the PSYCHOLOGY TODAY website. Go to (http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/ppc/prof_search.php?iorb=4764) and enter your zip code and optional category of specialty such as GRIEF/LOSS or Depression. Read psychotherapists’ profile to see if he or she has the specialty. You may also want to create your mental image of psychotherapist that you want to work with – Male or female? To note, many therapists offer initial consultation for free. So you can see it as an informational meeting. You can ask any question and negotiate psychotherapy fee.
If you have no health insurance or seek a low fee counseling, you may call The United Way toll free # XXXXX (Dial 2-1-1)to find the community mental health centers in your area in which you can get counseling even without health insurance.
Also, you will benefit from attending a support group for adults with loss and grief or loss of the loved one. You may contact a local hospital, clinics, and/or a church.
If you like to find a support group for him, check Mental Health America website section (http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/go/find_support_group) - Find a group in your area.
There are support groups websites. The Daily Strength (www.dailystrength.org) offer support groups for people with a variety of problems including loss of the loved one and Grief.
In addition, stress reduction and relaxation techniques such as yoga, swimming, biofeedback, acupuncture, meditation
and massage therapy may be helpful for you to reduce the severity of depression. Also, eating a healthy diet rich in Omega-3s – Cold water fish, walnuts, flaxseeds, salmon, halibut, shrimp and tofu etc. may be helpful to your mood management.
You need help and support from your doctor, a psychotherapist specializing in Grief counseling, family and/or friends.
I hope you get well with all available help and support.
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