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You can tell your doctor that you are feeling very stressed and as a result, you are starting to feel anxious. Doctors hear these kinds of things all the time and so they are prepared to help you. The doctor will most likely recommend medication to help you take the edge off your symptoms.
However, it sounds like you might need to see a therapist instead of a doctor. You can see the doctor for medication if you feel you need it to take the edge off your worry and anxiety. But therapy can help you cope with your stress and help you find better ways to handle your feelings. Therapy will also help you resolve your problems whereas medication will only help with the symptoms.
To find a therapist, talk to your doctor about a referral. Or search on line at http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/.
You can also work on this problem through self help. Here are some resources to help you get started:
The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook (New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) by XXXXX XXXXX, XXXXX Robbins Eshelman and Matthew McKay
10 Simple Solutions to Stress: How to Tame Tension and Start Enjoying Your Life by Claire Michaels Wheeler
You can find these books on Amazon.com or your local library may have them for you.
I hope this has helped you,
I would say going to a therapist is your best bet. The doctor is fine, but they are not trained in mental health matters, just the medication that helps symptoms like stress. A mental health therapist will be able to do an evaluation to tell you what diagnosis you have (helpful information if you also want to work on this problem through self help) and provide you with treatment. In your case, that is most likely individual sessions on an outpatient basis.
While medication is helpful in some cases, the side effects and possible addiction issues with some medications makes taking medications an impractical choice unless you really feel you need them to cope with daily living.
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It seems that you feel stuck with him because of his insecurities. He is telling you that you cannot move on because he is afraid you will forget him. This is not a good reason to stay living with him. You have needs as well and he is not addressing them with you. This is not a 50/50 relationship. And you are not responsible for his insecurities.
It comes down to you deciding on your own what you feel you need. You can still continue a relationship with him even if you live elsewhere. He could also move close to you, where ever you are from. There are other options. Since he is not willing to think beyond you giving up everything for him, you will need to do this yourself. Once you decide, follow through. If this relationship is meant to be, you will stay together. But if he balks and doesn't want to you make choices for yourself, you may want to rethink this relationship.
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