My husband had an affair years ago, which he made not effort to end. In fact, she harassed me at home, and even in the church. Our children were young, so I hung in there.
Now he is retired, his business failed. All along we have struggled financially. Now I have discovered a large number of people he borrowed from and never repaid. In addition, he was in real estate and supposedly bought property for "investors" rehabed and sold at a profit. Well he used the rehab money up, and the investors are left with uninhabitable properties. One gentleman he borrowed money from and signed my name, he has placed a 10,000 lien on our house. Financially, our life is a nightmare
. I try and talk to him and he either laughs or starts singing spiritual songs. All he does all day is play dominos on the internet and send nasty e-mails to some lady in Canada. We have never had a social life and now he won't even go to the movies with me, and tries to convince me I'm crazy.
I have been on disability, and we survived with inheritance money from my brother's transition. When my two brothers passed, he provided no support. In fact, as I sougth to write the eulogy, he kept trying to start an argument. When he left the room, I locked the door and thank-God had peace for a while. He won't help clean or repair the house, which is in disrepair because of neglect
. He doesn't seem to care about me, the house, our adult children, or living. All he does is play dominos on the computer, we talk less than a half hour daily and that always leads to an argument. He calls me a nag anytime I bring up things he needs to do or bills that need to be paid. I feel like he is an anchor around my ankle and trying to pull me down with him. Also, there is no romance, he rarely even touches me other than under the chin, no hugs, few kind words, and we're entering the second year of no sex. Honestly, he's not even a friend. Friends have abandoned me, and even the children are weary of listening. I know I have to find a position, new place, and leave KC to go back home to Chicago where my children and one remaining sister lives. I asked my sister for help, and she refused saying my children should help me. Well they are young, and working to make ends meet. He cast our daughter into bankruptcy, and caused tress in her young marriage by using the rent money from her properties and causing them to go into foreclosure. He also caused stress
in our son's marriage by borrowing, unknown to me, $3,000 from them and not repaying most of it. I've given my sister a great deal of finanacial assistance in the past. Now she is married to a successful executive, brags about having over 60,0000 saved and a house worth $400,000 which she owes 30,000 on located in an historic district of Chicago. She is as about cold as my husband, and doesn't hear my pain, encouraging me to stay on a sinking ship.