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Oh my gosh that is a horrible day! You must want to quit, like yesterday! These types of days make us all wonder why we got into our fields and you even had a VIP patient with a very sensitive issue to contend with. (to say the least)
I like that even though you probably felt like a puddle after all this stress and pharmacy mess, you held it together enough get people on your side. Many folks would have melted and not been able, or would have walked off the job together.
Remember, the past trauma of losing your job will resurface, feeling wise, with any similar situation. This circumstance is very similar,r and there is no doubt in my mind that what you felt was a post secondary trauma. This type of feeling is awful as it magnifies any parallel situation and makes it worse. It is a strong, strong echo of the original trauma and it can really hurt.
Sometimes Liz the goal is not to do well, but to survive. You met this goal. You didn't get terminated, and you didn't make any lasting enemies. In fact, you may have earned yourself another survivor stripe.
Liz, one day you will leave this crazy world of the ER. You just have to make it through. And, I know you will. Days like the "I want to quit the career" happen, but you handled it well...despite what you felt, that you did not. You are strong and a survivor. It will take more than this to ruin you. I am sorry about the day, but see this reaction as a sign of the growing character of you, growing and changing and adapting. Steven
Egos and doctors, they are synonymous, aren't they. And, look at the control and narcissistic attitude of Dr a. He demands that you, for admittedly little more than his won personal reason to know, insists to find out what happed that you got a burn. What an attitude! And, he asks in a non-private setting, to gain additional leverage from the patients. No wonder this guy is going to be alone. He's a real piece of work!
For you, you stood your ground. You do not have to apologize if you react to utter rudeness in a less than wonderful way. We are all just human. He deserved it. And, what is the comment about the sexual issue about which nurses are good in bed? What arrogance and attitude, to say this in an open way. Yes, these types of conversations do happen, sadly...but they are not public fodder for amusement.
I am amazed at the weird things that go on in terms of unprofessional behavior at your hospital. People share intimate details of their lives...why? What are you to do with affairs and psychological trauma? You are not their therapist. I think most of these doctors need to be in counseling, without a doubt. They are so inappropriate.
I am sorry you deal with this. But, you are navigating it. Like white water rafting we sometimes get through pretty, but many times we just get through the rocks. I would not worry about how well you looked when you are insulted so badly or treated as an information source only. I see many a reason that when you get your tenure here that you find another source of income; nursing yes...but this ER...gads. This is making telemetry look attractive. Steven
Liz, really? No progress at all? I am not sure about what you see, but you are a more thoughtful, careful and mature person. You have more insight, ability and are not as vulnerable as before. You are getting a lot of shots to the head so to speak, but you are doing well, really. Steven
I am about to get on a plane so we will get interrupted but I will talk with you tonight. I would like to see how on earth you think you are the same as a year ago!
Don't be so determined to prove that you are on the B team. You are the victim of a system that is too large, and too understaffed and too litigation happy. You took a hit in your last job. You took one big hit that was unfair, political in the nature with a VIP patient, a bunch of addicts and just plain unfortunate. This in no way proves that you are a less than valuable nurse or person. And, you are not waiting for doom; you are looking to see what will happen and good things do happen to you, contrary to a lot of what you often say. Can you name three things that you are blessed with? I will bet you can. Sounds sort of trite, but focus is focus.
The attorney is a major animal if there is no letter...and you are entitled to your money back, but I also know that you are short on funds for this type of thing. I am telling you, attorneys are bad stuff most of the time. Still no letter from the State? That is a very good sign.
Your plan sounds good. Stay in the job; have another child and get out when you can.
I had to laugh when you said that you could have told him you got the burn during rough sex. Really funny Liz. You still have that wild sense of humor! Steven
I am sure you noticed that: even when you mentioned that you had several good things happen to you that you immediately launched into bad things along with it. Yes, bad things do happen and you are not Bad Luck Shleprock. But sometimes the negative should be left out if you can manage it. It is not good for those who have been through what you have to look to often at the negative side of today's events, unless you have to that is.
You are not a job whore. You could do a lot of things in nursing, and I know that ER nursing pays the bills, but if it came to it you could find employment as a nurse. To say you have no choice is saying you literally have no choices. You do. They might not be all the ones you want, but calling yourself these kinds of names is not good for you either.
Maybe saying that yo got burned in rough sex is a bit over the top, but it fits who you are...so what if it takes them back. (I know, did Steve really just say that?)
I am not an expert on flirting, but it does sound a bit territorial if you say that someone can only flirt with you. That is like going steady, flirting wise, I think.
I am sure the pharm did not write you up. I see that as a non issue based on what you and all the others said. There is no way this would not go your way if it was reported, and I just do not see anything happening anyway. I think in this case you are indeed worrying for nothing. It is not a sign of anything. You are seeing a bad night as evidence that you should not be in a career. Do not let this rule you. It is not going to happen anyway. Too much evidence on the other side of the fence. Breathe, and relax. You are starting to take this too far I think. Steven
Happy birthday by the way, belated. (are you now 26?) :0)
I do understand that if you have a double history of reports to the State that your career is toast. One licensing hit is more than enough and two is fatal.
My point is that the likelihood that you will actually get this second hit is unlikely. It is much more unlikely than you think, and there is no way that the pharmacy person is going to take you to the State reporting level. I really want, if you can, to see that the trauma of your past is a primary reason why you are vigilant to these types of things.
No, I do not think you are unreasonable in being careful, but I do not want you to wind yourself into anxiety at the typical day to day messes that nurses often get into. Your field is just rife with opportunity to screw up, that is true. But you are anything but dull in terms of being careful and if Margaret can stay this long...well, that tells you something.
Dr b was being very inappropriate. As a matter of fact, in psychology what he is doing to you is called grooming...seeing if you are one of those married blondes that would like to have a fling. In many ways, this guy is not too bright and is arrogant in a less subtle way than he first appears.
The heart with the docs featured as the star? Of course. That would be par, right? They know (cough, cough) that without them the world stops its revolving and day and night ceases. I saw similar things at my hospital. Nurses are treated badly in many cases, and we all "love" the doctors. Of course...
Well, I didn't mean that you should be mean, just that you can afford to be yourself. Blunt truth is not totally you. I mean you are married. You have to be negotiator and compromising person to a significant extent.
Bully nurse is just being manipulative. She can't beat you up directly so being your friend might get her somewhere with information, leverage, etc. She could just be friendly of course, but I am betting otherwise.
I agree. When people treat us like we are disposable, that others are there for their convenience, it is annoying at the least, and painful at the worst to live with this. Beck and call relationships usually do not last. There is just not enough there to feel like we are valued. Drop her you may have too. Yes, it sucks. But this sadly is a universal trait of the hopelessly self centered. Steven