um no she doesnt really say why the only thing she does say is that dads always at work and doesnt come back till night, i guess he has his sis, mom, bro, and new friend taking her to and from school, she says even in morning sometimes hes not there...and about him in jail n stuff im not sure but your probebly right hes changed alot....he had a long term girlfriend that my daughter really liked alot and became close to because she was the one there for her when her dad was at work or away during his time, but they broke up and so now they dont go to her house anymore they just stay at his moms...now he just got a new friend and has been hangin with her alot lately, my daughter met her and her kids and seems to like them but still she cried bloody murder when it was time to go...what do you think would help that i can do in the mean time? until i take her to therapy,,,?
Hello there, I am sorry about your dilemma. I think talking to your lawyer about your rights to not have him pick your daughter up when she does not want to go is probably the right thing to do. His circumstances changed and your daughter is probably feeling unstable when he has so many different people picking her up. Can you reason with your ex? Assure him that you are not taking your daughter away but until he can be there in a regular basis for her he needs to let you take care of her more often. If you can't reason with him tell him that you will not let her go if she is upset because it is traumatic to her. A therapist can help you figure out what is happening but I understand that you have a court order to go by. Your best option is to talk to a lawyer or a legal clinic about changing your custody agreement. Having a therapist at you side that suggests that spending so much time with dad is emotionally damaging when he is not stable will help you. Maybe you can't do nothing right now until you do something legally. Explain to your daughter that she can call you anytime. You can teach her how to call your number. Maybe checking in with her daily will give her more peace. Maybe checking in with the grandmother. She may not like the new girlfriend and feels strange about being there.