I hope I can help
As far as you know did your boyfriend had this behavior with other women he lived with?
Have you met his mother sisters
Is strainge that you boyfriend does this more when your children visit
Can you tell me some of the weird things he does?
Does your boyfriend have any friends?
Relationships with others are intense but stormy and unstable with marked shifts of feelings and difficulties in maintaining intimate, close connections. The person may manipulate others and often has difficulty with trusting others. There is also emotional instability with marked and frequent shifts to an empty lonely depression or to irritability and anxiety. There may be unpredictable and impulsive behavior which might include excessive spending, promiscuity, gambling, drug or alcohol abuse, shoplifting, overeating or physically self-damaging actions such as suicide gestures. The person may show inappropriate and intense anger or rage with temper tantrums, constant brooding and resentment, feelings of deprivation, and a loss of control or fear of loss of control over angry feelings. There are also identity disturbances with confusion and uncertainty about self-identity, sexuality, life goals and values, career choices, friendships. There is a deep-seated feeling that one is flawed, defective, damaged or bad in some way, with a tendency to go to extremes in thinking, feeling or behavior. Under extreme stress or in severe cases there can be brief psychotic episodes with loss of contact with reality or bizarre behavior or symptoms. Even in less severe instances, there is often significant disruption of relationships and work performance. The depression which accompanies this disorder can cause much suffering and can lead to serious suicide attempts
Your boyfriend sounds like he has the above personality disorder called Borderline
Those are some of the symptoms as you see paranoid thoughts are part of this disorder
Stress from imagined abandoment can result to paranoid thoughts
Your boyfriend will need therapy to improve
you will also need supportive therapy if you want to stay in the relationship
hes distributed condom throughout different location in my home. sprinkled cocaine on tabletops, disturbed the table runner on my table, put dripping wax from candle on hardwood floor, puts objects(tv remote)in wrong room ,moves things out of order. he lies in different ways too.telling me he didn't drink when i smell beer. he's with someone when he's,in fact with someone else. when i ask about the things going on around the house he tells me I'm imagining it or "i don't know'and gets upset that I'm accusing him. last night he even cried after the candle wax incident. 'crocodile tears. i know this all means that he's being abusive to me emotionally and what id like from you is this...a diagnosis, reasons he does this, and that it is indeed emotional abuse and that i should ,in fact ,get away. but he's all i have. i think he's far sicker then i want to know but i do want to know
Wow that is very strange behavior
It looks like your boyfriend has lost touch with reality
it sounds a bit like psychosis
how long has this behavior going on?
how much does he drink
Do you think he is using the cocaine?
For how long do you know him?
Has he ever talk to things that are not there?
I've thought about bpd many times. also, he seems like two different people sometimes. kind and caring vs,.sneeky and scary. this has been going on since the beginning when he feels threatened feels threatened or he feels I've been bad someway .dishonest etc. yes it escalates when he uses cocaine. no he's aware of reality. doesn't drink much.aware of reality
Cocaine can make a person act like they are psychotic
so my feeling is that he has BPD and also psychotic episodes when he is comming down from his high.
most addicts have the lieing and crazy behavior
no,I've had psychosis and this is something he's aware that he's doing.but maybe so.because today he thought i was somewhere else when i had told him i was with the kids.he does it when he's high not when coming down wouldn't he be showing other symptoms though?confusion scattered thinking if psychotic?
this sounds more like paranoia
paranoia is also a symptoms of chronic cocaine about
cocaine affects part of his brain
oh, i see.tell me the motivating factor behind his doing these things to me?
His mind is affected by the drug
He also has fears that you will leave him
when I'm psychotic i remember that what i did was strange/wrong. he denies it when drug is gone
It is different
the cocaine creates an idea in this mind
and he believes that is true
so when his mind tells him you did something because he is high
he will believe it later also
I had a client who thought her husband was cheating
yes he does act often on wether this action will say, get me to leave him. which doesn't make sense bcuz this shit makes me want to leave more and he's aware of that
Yes the borderline personality
pushes someone away
so,you're saying that he doesn't know he's doing it when he does it
they want a relationship but they are so affraid that the person will leave they push them away
am i going to be able to print this out?
He really believes what he thinks is true
you can try.. I am not sure
I would suggest that you go to a NARCANON
those are for family members of drug addicts
but if he does something doesn't that mean he's aware of doing it therefore he remembers it
You need some support
I think he may not remeber it if he was high
people block out and dont remember sometimes
sometimes they do and lie is hard to tell
trust your intuition
if you can tell with your intuition that something is wrong and he is lying ou are right
what caused you psychosis in the past?
are you bi-polar?
ok, but i think i don't understand the motivating factor behind this
yes because there is not one
so you don't have a disorder
shit i can't print.i want to save this!to had him read
well is hard to understand what motivates your boyfriend
its new concerts and i get psychotic
it is hard to understands
maybe seeing a therapist for couples therapy will help the two of you
what is the prognosis of someone diagnosed with borderline personality disorder? how can i get a proper diagnosis for my boyfriend and what test is administered. I'm feeling hopeless about this condition because it affects our relationship and he's putting me through hell. he realizes he has issues and just started working with a very good therapist who is clueless about his condition . as is to be expected because he's secretive about himself and just deals with facts and circumstances to deal with his problems. if she was aware of BPD I'm certain he would get better help. any advice on how i can better help him. at this point I'm fed up and need help myself. is there any way for you to refer to the discussion and do you have access to the discussion i had with PennyrayasMFT last night at 10;45 pm.at just answer so you get an idea of whats going on?
Already Tried: telling him if we work together as a team to solve our problems and he's not mean/verballyabusive we won't need to end relationship. last time i ended our relationship he went on a 2 month drinking binge that almost killed him.he lies still even though he's promised not to and can't seem to control his anger though he's promised to