I was glad to help you with the situation with your daughter. It is often hard to see something like that clearly, so having another opinion helps.
Your therapist gave you excellent advice when you called her. The conversation could have done without you being told you are having a temper tantrum though. That is not helpful. I think your therapist could have chose better phrasing to get her point across, maybe something more therapeutic. Making you feel bad by demeaning you doesn't help. But it is true that therapy can often make you feel worse before you get better. It is because you are digging in deep and bringing up very painful memories and feelings. But it does get better.
Having a person become independent is the goal of any good therapist. Therapists want to be there for others but if you create dependency with someone, you can do more harm than good. You want to teach a person how to cope while providing positive and helpful support. And that means for as long as it takes. In your case, you have suffered a lot of trauma so recovery could possibly take a while, depending on how you work on your issues.
I know you feel like you want to avoid life. But pushing yourself to go out and try at least one of your therapist's suggestions can go a long way in your recovery. Most of the time, it is a matter of one step and one moment at a time. Every new step is like that. But making the effort can really change your prognosis and do a world of good for your recovery.