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I am so sorry, that you are in this trying position. I can only imagine what it must be like for you.
It is very stressful and upsetting. He is coming home today and I don't know what to do?
There are so many issues and dynamics that we could discuss, but it seems that your main question is if you should break it off. Well, let's look at that.
Well a little background is that we don't fight or argue. We have had one major fight on July 1st of this year other than that 2 arguments and thats it. We talk things out. He is mature for his age except for this part. I feel like if his dad found out that he would make my bf choose between me and his family and I think I would lose.
Something that helps in similar situations is to "generalize" the issue. That is to say, what if it wasn't the issue of age, but something else. Anything else that would keep him from introducing you to his family.....
He said he wants to stay with me and in a way I think that this is his battle but again I don't want to wait for the other shoe to drop and get hurt.
Would you want to stay with someone who didn't want to make you a part of his family for any reason?
His dad just thinks it is the age. That he has so much life to live and needs to find someone closer to his age. I have told him this before and he says he wants me. We don't care about the age diff. We met and immediately hit it off and have been together ever since.
As nice as this guy is, and as great as you are together, it doesn't seem that he sees it as a long term relationship - at least not a lifetime relationship.
If he isn't comfortable introducing you to his family....
Idk i have questions about that too but we are both like you never know what will happen and we want to see where this goes. Maybe I should flat out ask him if he sees himself being married to me?
.... he is not ready for this - and I think you really know this deep down. But it is still hard to let something go that could be so great. That's what makes this so tough, but nonetheless staying with him will only prolong the inevitable... sadly :(
Yes I think I am coming face to face with this now. So what if he did decide to tell his dad? Does that show that I am important to him? I would feel that way.
So, the answer to your question is..... of course in my opinion is to give him that ultimatum. Either he moves forward, you both go to counseling, or you end it. I am so sorry to be the one to relay this :(
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