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I am sorry to hear about your divorce. Divorce can be a very painful time. Mourning your loss is a very important part of working through to a happier life.
Self confidence comes from believing in yourself. You accept yourself and feel that you can achieve most goals that you set your mind to. And even if you fail, you still can go on because you have a good view of yourself.
Self confidence needs developed. Those who were not able to get it in childhood often struggle in adulthood. But even with the perfect environment, some people still struggle with feeling good about themselves.
If you do not feel like you have good self esteem, you can still develop it on your own. Here are some ways to increase your self esteem:
Don't think in black and white- all or nothing thinking harms you. No one is perfect so accepting that you do well sometimes and other times not so well is a healthy point of view
Make a list of your strengths- you are good at taking pictures. That is a strength that not many people have. List other strengths and keep the list where you can see it. If you have trouble making the list, as someone to help you.
Accept that failing happens to everyone- and always will. No person can escape failure in their lives.
Be aware of your thoughts- if you are always putting yourself down, then you will feel like a failure. Practice changing each of your negative thoughts into positive.
Forgive yourself- making a mistake does not make you a bad person or even lower than others.
The idea here is to change your thinking. If you feel you have trouble doing this on your own, try therapy. Cognitive Behavioral therapy (CBT) can help you work on increasing you self esteem. To find a therapist, ask your doctor for a referral. Or you can search on line at http://www.psychotherapy.co.za/.
You can also help yourself at home. Here are some resources to get you started:
Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem by Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning
The Self-Esteem Workbook by Glenn R. Schiraldi
Healing Your Emotional Self: A Powerful Program to Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem, Quiet Your Inner Critic, and Overcome Your Shame by Beverly Engel
The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman's Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem by Sue Patton Thoele
You can find these books on Amazon.com or your local library may have them for you.
I hope this has helped,