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I am so sorry to hear about your husband's situation.
It sounds like he may have mood disorder, neuropsychiatric and/or personality disorder as he lies all the time, is promiscuous and impulsive, acting out sexually behind your back, spends money recklessly, and obsessive about things in general.
Possibly, he may have mood disorder such as bipolar
disorder, ADHD, and/or Personality disorder such as Antisocial and Borderline PD.
I also wonder if he has sex addiction.
Does he have depression or mood swings? If so, he may have Bipolar disorder.
Indeed, people with Antisocial PD rarely seek treatment for their illness.
He may need to work with psychiatrist (M.D.) and psychotherapist. Treatment for bipolar disorder consists of pharmacotherapy (by psychiatrist), individual psychotherapy (Cognitive-behavior therapy - CBT) or Interpersonal therapy (ITP) by a licensed psychologist or psychotherapist), and group therapy or support group by a psychotherapist. Pharmacotherapy is a critical aspect of treatment.
Individual psychotherapy will help him for support, ventilation of feelings, coping skills training, and direct advice. Group therapy is useful for her to address the issues – adherence to medication and therapy, regulation of self-esteem, and management of other psychosocial issues. Support groups are available in a local community clinic or a local hospital. Friends and family should join a support group to better understand the illness so that they can continue to offer encouragement and support to him.
He and you may contact his insurance company and get a list of providers (a psychologist and a psychiatrist) in your area.
Or he may ask his primary care doctor for a referral to a psychologist and a psychiatrist.
If he has no health insurance or need low cost treatment, you may call The United Way toll free # XXXXX to find the community mental health centers in your area in which he can get treatment described above even without health insurance.
To find a group therapy or a support group for him, contact a local hospital or a clinic by asking if they offer a group for people with these illnesses. If you like to find a support group online, check Mental Health America website section (http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/go/find_support_group) - Find a group in your area.
In any case, he may need to see a psychologist for assessment and testing to determine accurate diagnoses.
I hope your husband gets treatment for his condition as soon as possible. You also get support and help from a psychotherapist, family and/or friends in this difficult time.
Please let me know if you have more questions or I have overlooked any. Warm regards,
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