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You need to be honest with her about your age. Her culture is one where such a difference in age is tolerated. I have a doctor friend in his 50's married to a 25 year old from the Philippines. Also your two boys may have difficulty adjusting to her age and may need some time to prepare.
If you are honest about things it reduces the shock that may happen if you are not up front and honest. Now is the best time to come clean.
how do i go about it? when we started talking it was just gentle chat but over several chats etc my feelings got serios...etc and something i said wasn't honest and reall need to come clean about it and if your ok with it all we can start fresh and move on together etc ,talked to boys there ok with it ..
something like this
talked with her parents today they feel great about me ,they never ask my age ever ,,
all they want is someone to love and be good to there joan ...will do that but need this behind me ..eating me up inside
should i write everything threw computer or regular mail ,or by phone ?????
You go about it by saying what you real age is and then seeing what her reaction is. You also need to talk to your sons and let them know of your intentions. See what they have to say and if they are angry. It is only when you are completely honest and above board that this has a chance of working. You stand a much greater chance of her going right back to her homeland when she finds out your true age.
is there anything can say and back up to her about looking not at age but at what we have between each other ?that might make her think
age is only a number ,talk with boys there ok with her age young or old ...
talked with boys there ok with everything and age and all
she told me she loves me if its true will i have to tell her everything else is truth i said and show her .and how do i make her see i am very sorry
I agree that the only thing that makes a difference in age go away is being supportive, compassionate and making her laugh. If it is alright with your sons I have found daughters to be more concerned so that part is good. No need to say you are making her sorry just that you want to be honest with her and keep the relationship on an honest course. I am only thinking of your situation.