Hi, I'd like to help you with your question.
If your spouse's tirades are disturbing enough to you to bring it up in therapy, then it needs addressed in a better way.
From the behavior you mentioned, it sounds like your spouse is either narcissistic or his he emotionally abusive or both. Name calling and accusations are both considered emotional abuse. They are assaults on you as a person. And emotional abuse is unacceptable behavior in a marriage.
Sometimes therapists make mistakes. Or they come at a problem from an angle they feel is helpful when it is not. And sometimes therapists are not that good as is the case in any field. Training, experience and/or personal issues can get in the way and cause a therapist to make poor decisions with clients. And you are right, sometimes therapists can do more harm than good, just like any other professional.
You can talk to your therapist about how you feel. Start by learning more about emotional abuse and narcissism. The more you know, the better equipped you will be to talk to your therapist about her advice. Here are some links to help you:
If you feel your therapist is not helping you and she continues to offer you the same type of responses, you may need to move on to another therapist. But unless she is breaking an ethics code, you really cannot report her. But you can find a new therapist that is better equipped to help you. Here is a link to find a new therapist:
I hope this has helped you,Kate