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She will just need to be tactful and patient. The other girl made a HR MISTAKE. Going salary means unlimited overtime (pretty much) which she is astute enough to know. Unfortunately, if they want to reclassify the position as exempt, they can do so without her consent. I would have her express how satisfied she is with her job and she, personally, does not think reclassification is in anyone's best interest. She can also indicate that although she is wanting to work hard, she thinks the reclassification is unneeded to work effectively and efficiently. She needs to be tactful and somewhat accepting. She can suggest that a reclassification study be done, but this sounds like private industry, she is at their whim. On the optimistic side, someday the "counterpart" will do something stupid. Daughter needs to sit back to some extent and pass out rope and let the other girl hang herself and she can stand on all merits. My wife is an HR exec. so I get a lot of free advice on these matters.......She likely has no legal action available, but have her track her overtime. At some point the issue may arise, or she can innocently ask what to do with all this accrued time, and let them see the mess they created. Absent a written contract, she just needs to hang in there and be a team player and hope this works out. She would not be out of line asking for her official job description, noting roles have changed and she just "wants to know" what is expected. If they are this loose and free with going from non-exempt they will make legal errors. She just needs to let things cool a bit. If anyone else is hired into equivalent position, that is prime time to ask for clarification. Wish her well and encourage patience. I was not a patient young professional and ended up hurting myself in some jobs.
My daughter was hired for a job 3 mo. ago on an hr. basis.......last week she was changed to salary because of a suggestion made by her counterpart....even though there is much overtime. Details about my previous question regarding this was very helpful: ie ....work with integrity and patience (as her counterpart is very competitive and wants to be noticed and in charge) She is 24 with 2 yrs experience and my daughter is 30 and new to the Co. ....but has wowed the president with and others UNTIL: she questioned being changed from hr. to salary.
The result ..the president came to her office and expressed his disconsent she expressed her concerns AND she is pretty much being ostrasized by everyone in the office. EX. she walked into the conference room today and everyone was having lunch together and she was not invited. She is humiliated and has asked my advice as to how to react.
She told her immediate supervisor she was not happy about the change and when asked by the supervisor if she needed to go to the president about this ...my daughter said "no" and that she would work it out. Also she was accused of keeping a key (since then) which the president had all along.......and today the computers went down and one of her colleagues stated mmout loud ...."It must have been Chels' (my daughter) fault. She has never been given a chance to explain her side,
She is humiliated that she has been labeled as greedy for speaking up against going from hr. to salary because of the after hour workload.........she is very uncomfortable around the colleagues who up until last week have been very supportive as she adjusted to this new position.
My question.....how can she cope, how should she respond to the ostraization, should she try to clear this between she and her supervisor and the president ?
My question is what can she do to BEST cope mentally and emotionally