How JustAnswer Works:

  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site.
    Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.

Ask Dr. Ed Wilfong Your Own Question

Dr. Ed Wilfong
Dr. Ed Wilfong, Psychologist
Category: Mental Health
Satisfied Customers: 1528
Experience:  Twenty-five years treating all ages; Specialities: psychopharmacology & diagnosis, MMPI-2, testing.
25396616
Type Your Mental Health Question Here...
Dr. Ed Wilfong is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

My wife and I moved to another state last month, 2 weeks after

Resolved Question:

My wife and I moved to another state last month, 2 weeks after we arrived here she had to go back to our old state to get her driver’s license. Three weeks before we moved to our new home she had started hanging out with another guy, now I admit we were having issues in our relationship. The guy however would buy her things such as clothes, gifts, and necklace. He even offered her a good paying job and later offered to buy her a house; he even paid over $4,000 to get her vehicle fix. She came to me with this and I was very upset, she claimed she wanted to stay and go to school and take the job he had offered her and the house. I told her no, that we could do on our own, money has been tight for me, and we than moved to our new home. 2 weeks later she had to go back to get her driver’s permit, the guy went and bought her the plane ticket to go back, she is currently there waiting to get her license. While she was there we were having arguments and later told me she no longer wanted to be with me and wanted to end our relationship. She also said that she wanted to get to know this guy more and see where it leads. She said he is helping her with a job, school, and even buying her a house. I later seek help to control my anger which was the cause to our issues. I told her she was free to do what she wanted, since than we have been talking normal, and told me the day I change to the man I was and show her I have improve that she would take me back. She still tells me she loves me and all, but every time he is around she hangs up on me or starts talking to me. My question is, why is this man offering her all this stuff? Is it normal for a guy to offered to buy someone he just met a house? I mean the guy has money and buys homes and resells them, he is pretty much buying her everything and giving her money everyday.
Submitted: 3 years ago.
Category: Mental Health
Expert:  Dr. Ed Wilfong replied 3 years ago.

Dr. Ed Wilfong :

Well if he has the money......I guess it is normal. Normal or not, he is doing it. Of more importance, you must be in great pain and feel like you have no control. It is very sad for you. I suspect your wife will learn"something" the hard way, but meanwhile, anything I can do for you.

Customer:

Let me try to rephase the question, why would a man offer all this things to a woman he just met?

Dr. Ed Wilfong :

To manipulate her. He likely is an asshole and just "buys" what he wants with conscience or concern for others.

Customer:

I see, also like i said me and her have been talking peaceful, lets me know as long as I continue progress and show her I change than we can start rebuilding our marriage, however, like I said before, when he is around she stops talking to me and asks me not to text her.

Dr. Ed Wilfong :

Yes, he isn't doing this without her involvement. I tend to be honest, so my gut reaction is she is keeping both options open so she can decide if she wants to stay with him (or otherwise move on) or recommitt to you. She certainly is not "innocent" in all of this. I am gald you are still talking and hopefully making progress.

Dr. Ed Wilfong :

Above I meant without conscience

Dr. Ed Wilfong, Psychologist
Category: Mental Health
Satisfied Customers: 1528
Experience: Twenty-five years treating all ages; Specialities: psychopharmacology & diagnosis, MMPI-2, testing.
Dr. Ed Wilfong and 3 other Mental Health Specialists are ready to help you
Expert:  Dr. Ed Wilfong replied 3 years ago.
That is why I tried to make correction. He likely has little or no concern about the people he is and may hurt. He likely only cares about what he wants without regard for how it affects others. I don't know him, but that is what it sounds like to me.

JustAnswer in the News:

 
 
 
Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.
 
 
 

What Customers are Saying:

 
 
 
  • I can go as far as to say it could have resulted in saving my sons life and our entire family now knows what bipolar is and how to assist and understand my most wonderful son, brother and friend to all who loves him dearly. Thank you very much Corrie Moll Pretoria, South Africa
< Last | Next >
  • I can go as far as to say it could have resulted in saving my sons life and our entire family now knows what bipolar is and how to assist and understand my most wonderful son, brother and friend to all who loves him dearly. Thank you very much Corrie Moll Pretoria, South Africa
  • I thank-you so much! It really helped to have this information and confirmation. We will watch her carefully and get her in for the examination and US right away if things do not improve. God bless you as well! Claudia Albuquerque, NM
  • Outstanding response time less than 6 minutes. Answered the question professionally and with a great deal of compassion. Kevin Beaverton, OR
  • Suggested diagnosis was what I hoped and will take this info to my doctor's appointment next week.
    I feel better already! Thank you.
    Elanor Tracy, CA
  • Thank you to the Physician who answered my question today. The answer was far more informative than what I got from the Physicians I saw in person for my problem. Julie Lockesburg, AR
  • You have been more help than you know. I seriously don't know what my sisters situation would be today if you had not gone above and beyond just answering my questions. John and Stefanie Tucson, AZ
  • I have been dealing with an extremely serious health crisis for over three years, and one your physicians asked me more questions, gave me more answers and encouragement than a dozen different doctors who have been treating me!! Janet V Phoenix, AZ
 
 
 

Meet The Experts:

 
 
 
  • Dr. Keane

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1262
    Clinical Psychology PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor with experience in marriage/family, teens and child psychology.
< Last | Next >
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/DR/Dr.Keane/2013-8-20_204325_drkeane.64x64.jpg Dr. Keane's Avatar

    Dr. Keane

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1262
    Clinical Psychology PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor with experience in marriage/family, teens and child psychology.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/RE/resolutions66/2011-1-17_05728_IMG8202smilingeditedforJustAnswer.64x64.jpg Elliott, LPCC, NCC's Avatar

    Elliott, LPCC, NCC

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    5024
    35 years of experience as a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, National Certified Counselor and a college professor.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/formybunch/2010-12-06_191055_img_0975.jpg Kate McCoy, M.Ed, NBCC, LPC's Avatar

    Kate McCoy, M.Ed, NBCC, LPC

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    3733
    Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/DR/DrAkiraOlsen/2012-2-20_746_AkiraADpicmain.64x64.jpg Dr. Olsen's Avatar

    Dr. Olsen

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    2336
    PsyD Psychologist
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/norriem/2009-5-27_134249_nm.jpg Norman M.'s Avatar

    Norman M.

    Psychotherapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    2193
    UK trained in hypnotherapy, counselling and psychotherapy and have been in private practice. ADHP(NC), DEHP(NC), UKCP Registered and ECP.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/PsychologyProf/2010-07-15_171248_logos060400409.jpg Dr. Michael's Avatar

    Dr. Michael

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    2177
    Licensed Ph.D. Clinical Health Psychology with 30 years of experience in private practive and as a clinical psychology university professor.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/KURTEMMERLING/2010-07-23_215531_just_ask_picture1.jpg Steven Olsen's Avatar

    Steven Olsen

    Therapist

    Satisfied Customers:

    1727
    More than twenty years of expertise in counseling, psychological diagnosis and education
 
 
 
Chat Now With A Mental Health Professional
Dr. Ed Wilfong
Dr. Ed Wilfong
Licensed Psychologist
1524 Satisfied Customers
Twenty-five years treating all ages; Specialities: psychopharmacology & diagnosis, MMPI-2, testing.