I appreciate what you have sent. Unfortunately, my husband says that he is doing "nothing wrong". He claims that after he takes the Viagra he needs the porn to help him masturbate to relieve the additional affects after he has had sex with me....I have done a little research on Viagra and the claims made don't match his defense. I guess that I need to go it alone as far as therapy is concerned. I admit that going this (online therapist) route has been an act of desparation. I don't even watch Dr. !Phil.
I am sorry to say that I am VERY uncomfortable with your statement: "If you want to win him back AND the threat that he will turn to masturbation if I do not respond to him sexually. WOW! That's a big order for someone who has just been flattened - and in a way blamed - not for the use of porn but for my response. I'm sorry but I am struggling with this.