Hi, I'd like to help you with your question.
Your daughter can get help through the local community mental health center. They provide low cost counseling on a sliding fee scale. They will help your daughter with therapy, psychiatric services and help her find financial assistance, including housing. If you cannot find the number try the the United Way. They will be able to provide the information to you.
I also located some local services that may help. Here are some you can try:
There are also many on line resources that can help her as well. Here are some links to help:
Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse by Ann McMurray and Gregory L. Ph.D. Ph.D. Jantz
The Emotionally Abused Woman : Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself by Beverly Engel
Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out; On relationship and recovery by XXXXX XXXXX
These books can be found on Amazon.com or your local library may have them for you.
Verbal abuse is difficult to cope with because there are no outside scars. All the pain is on the inside. And your daughter is not the only one being hurt by this. Her children are also absorbing what is happening and may repeat the pattern when they start their own relationships.
Trying to leave a relationship that is abusive is hard. Many victims believe that they either deserve the abuse or they cannot live without the person they are with. They feel lost and alone. That is the nature of verbal abuse. To make the victim feel they have no worth and to take away their independence. Your daughter does have you and your husband so that can make a big difference in her situation.
Counseling and recovery is the most important component to helping your daughter and her children. She needs support and guidance on how to overcome the damage done by the abuse. Many of the links above can help her find resources for housing, counseling, group counseling and support for her children.
Let me know if I can help any further,