It sounds like your husband is better outside the home. You don't have to deal with him now that he has moved on unless absolutely necessary. Create your safe world in which he is not a part. Avoid the possibility that he will be angry by eliminating any role other than what is necessary. His temper is no longer your problem. Don't "fear" for his mental health unless he is doing the same. He has to want to change himself. If he is acting irrationally let him come to that conclusion. He can see he has problems. It is not your job to point them out. You function in your life and he can function in his. He has to want to be a positive person. I would focus on issues that are present in my life and not be his partner or protector. Let him figure it out
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