Hello and thanks for asking JA. It sounds like your son may suffer from bi-polar depression. He has some of the symptoms for mania such as overspending talking too much, irritation uncontrollable behavior. I wonder if he spends more than 5 nights without sleep
The primary symptoms of bipolar disorder are dramatic and unpredictable mood swings.
Mania symptoms may include excessive happiness, excitement, irritability, restlessness, increased energy, less need for sleep, racing thoughts, high sex drive, and a tendency to make grand and unattainable plans.
Depression symptoms may include sadness, anxiety, irritability, loss of energy, uncontrollable crying, change in appetite causing weight loss or gain, increased need for sleep, difficulty making decisions, and thoughts of death or suicide.
If your son has bi-polar he will need to see a psychiatrist and get medication and a therapist to receive therapy. How long does the treatment last will depend on the person's response to treatment if the medication works and how they respond to therapy. I would point out the symptoms that you see and how worry you are that he does not come out of his room in a month. Usually after 6 weeks of therapy and medication I see some inprovement in clients. Do you think your son is using drugs?
I wonder if something happened in the last 3-4 months. Did his girlfriend brake up with him? Was there the death of a friend or relative? Any changes in his life that you can think? Is there a history of depression in your family? How was your son's mood when he was a child? People with learning disabilities like your son are more likely to develop depression. Has he talked about suicidal thoughts?
Thanks for clarifying his behaviors for me. I think your son has depression what we call bi-polar II depression. It is a very treatable disorder. It is a mental health disorder and stress can trigger the depressive and hyponamic episodes. Here is what hypomanic episodes look like
A distinct period of persistently elevated, expansive, or irritable mood, lasting throughout at least 4 days, that is clearly different from the usual nondepressed mood.
B. During the period of mood disturbance, three (or more) of the following symptoms have persisted (four if the mood is only irritable) and have been present to a significant degree:
Bipolar goes from periods of hypomania to symptoms of depression after the hypomania the person gets depressed.
symptoms of depression may include the following:
I think your son needs to see a psychiatrist and a therapist. I would bring up with him that I love him and that I have been worried about his stress level and depression lately. See if he agrees to see a therapist. I think a therapist will help him. When people are in the hypomanic state of bi-polar they do overspend. Do you think your son is worried about his upcoming marriage?
Do you see those symptoms when you think about your son's behavior?
Thanks for letting me know. The biting his nails is a symptom of anxiety. I understand your frustration with your son but I am not sure you can do anything to convince him to change his behavior. All this behaviors may also mean that he is in love with this woman and very consumed by this relationship. All you can do is be there for him and I think he will come out of this eventually if this is not real depression. Love relationships sometimes can cause a lot of emotion and cause some anxiety and depression. If the depression is not biological and he does not have suicidal thoughts he may come out of this on his own. Keep inviting him to join you for activities and tell him you will be there if he wants to talk. It would be nice for him to see a therapist that can help him with those feelings. If you are happy with the answer please accept so I can get paid.