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I have read your post a couple of times and I am sorry that you find yourself in this unfortunate situation. It seems that you are feeling as though you are being treated very unfairly in spite of the fact that you have done your share in the relationship.....
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yes, My english is not really pretty good, sorry, I will do my best for you understand me
OK... not to worry about your English - we'll get through this :) OK..... It looks like you question is how do you leave with out feeling guilty.......
Well, I must be honest, there is almost always some guilt on both parties in ANY breakup - so I won't promise that I can tell you how to avoid ALL feelings of guilt. However.......
... It seems that he took advantage of you from the get go. He may not be fully aware of it, but he did.
It sounds like he was in a financial bind and looked to you to help him. Once that was done, he probably started his attitude of not appreciating you :(
You have been very accommodating in "taking a backseat" to his kids and done your part. There is not reason for you to feel guilty! He is the one that should feel guilty because HE took advantage of YOU!
The best way to deal with this is to realize that you are going to have some feelings of guilt - it's natural (for anyone) to look for ANY little mistake that you did over the years in the relationship and focus on that as if it would have made a difference. Just realize that what is happening now is not fair.
mm sometime I feel that he makes me fell bad... Well when we got married he had money...he even didnot wanted i work, i did nto have a car, because he did not wanted..
well I have to leave know
The other way to get over your feelings of guilt is to think about the following... Can you imagine staying in a relationship where you are constantly hurt? Is that fair to you? Would you do that to him?