Hi! You know, to give you the best answer, I think I should ask you a few questions first that will help define the problem and the situation.
There are therapy models that don't advocate delving into the WHY question at all and certainly not the past. A prime example is very strict Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).
But here's the difficulty:
CBT has been shown effective in a number of disorders and other types of therapy have been shown effective when other problems are present. And the second part to this is what you are like. CBT, even in disorders where it has been shown effective, is dependent on the person responding to its style.
So let's find out if it might be the best for you:
Was there trauma or abuse in your childhood? What about alcohol or dysfunction in your family when you were growing up?
YOu've been in therapy for 15 years. Are you getting any treatment right now? If so, what type? How is it going?
Has it been all one type of therapy? Was it helpful?
Any extra information that will help, feel free to share.
I will most likely log off for the night before you reply, but go ahead and reply to these questions and I’ll answer as soon as I log on tomorrow. Okay?