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Good evening and thank you for the opportunity to help in answering your question. First let me say that I am sincerely XXXXX XXXXX hear of the difficulty you're experiencing in this relationship as no one should have to endure angry outbursts like that.
Based on the information you've kindly provided it sounds like a tenuous relationship that you're in. My initial suggestion would be to speak with your boyfriend about the impact that his anger has on you as well as what it appears to be triggering (old memories and such) and gauge his response. If he is receptive and agrees to work on it, meaning seeing a therapist to get better control of and regulate his emotions than it would certainly be worth it to try and work things through with him as you seem to truly care about him.
However, if he is in denial of his behavior and is dismissive of your needs and request then my suggestion to you would be to consider seeing a therapist in order for you to decipher what is the most appropriate decision to make regarding your own future and to decide whether it is worth staying in the relationship or time for you to consider moving on with your life and finding a partner that you are more compatible with and who is more respectful of you.
My apologies if I have come across as abrupt but I feel it necessary to give you the most informed answer and the most appropriate suggestions.
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