Good afternoon and thank you for the opportunity to help in answering your question. Based on the information you've kindly provided it sounds as though you would benefit from a therapeutic approach called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. This approach to treatment looks at the your thoughts and how they impact you emotionally...most notably the anxiety that you experience and the negative thoughts that you experience as a result of "personalizing" the events that you confront. The approach helps you to look closer at the thoughts and to learn how and why they come up as well as helping you to learn techniques and strategies to put into place to help you cope with them as well.
I would suggest seeing a therapist that is skilled and experienced in this approach to treatment as that would certainly help. You can call your health insurance provider in order to attain a referral for the therapy and they will be able to identify specific persons skilled in the above approach,
I would also like to suggest a workbook that is based on the same approach above and is concentrated on treatment and management of anxiety. It's complete with exercises that you can do on your own to begin working toward healing and managing your anxiety and the negative thoughts.
Here is a link to the workbook:
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