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My intial response was a little vague. I am open to marriage counseling again, however, it does seem futile when my husband lied to the therapist during meetings and continued to be the same person after. Basically, we have a few "normal" problems. He lies to me about money, which has changed some, but not enteriley. He likes to buy things for himself without consulting me and it ends up leaving our bank account in the negative or worse bills not being paid. He has gotten better about this, but just last night I discovered he had spent 100 on something but he failed to tell me , I didn't bother asking.
That problem has been going on for years, basically since I've known him. The other thing that is so hard to put up with is his attitude. He seems so angry and distant lately. He's always been rough around the edges, but this is getting ridiculous. He constantly critizes myself, and our children. The poor kids walk around not knowing which side is up because he'll snap at them for the littlest thing. We have four children who range from 10-2 yrs old. He is never physically abusive just rude to them and belittling when he doesn't feel happy.
I'm so fed up I don't even want to talk to him anymore. I love him dearly and believe in "forever after" but at some point I have to wonder if he's not happy due to me and that's why he continues to berate me and our children.
I think he was like that before marriage it has just gotten worse as time goes on. He has to be emotionally needy when he does something new or even small things it's like he's a small child saying "look, look" or for example when he get's dressed for something (work, date, ect.) he wants my approval of his outfit, hair, shoes, you name it, even sunglasses. I wouldn't mind this at all, but he gives me generic comments like that's fine or it's fine just like the last time I told you.
Marriage counseling may be our only hope. I'm just not sure. Is this something he could grow out of with age? He's 28 now and we've been together 8 years. I'm 27.