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You're not alone!
I don't know if that makes you feel any better or not, but it's not uncommon for me to deal with people who question why they always seem to end up with the same kind of girlfriend or boyfriend.
I'm sure that you are aware of women who always seem to end up in an abusive relationship. Well, that's the one that people usually hear about, but the same can be true for other situations such as you are dealing with.
I imagine that you find it interesting or even fascinating that you have no conscious idea of how these women will behave until you get into a relationship. ANYWAY........
There are reasons that go beyond the scope of this forum except to say that most experts agree that people in your position are exhibiting behaviors that are attracting these kind of women as well as behaviors that bring out these things in the women you are dating.
I'm not blaming you - that would be what we call re-victimizing you - and believe me that's not what this is about. In fact.....
The good news is this......
Since you are (in all likelihood) exhibiting behaviors that draw these women to you - you can change :) This is good news for you!
However, you will need to enlist the help of a relationship therapist. I'm not suggesting there is something wrong with you, you just need to be made aware of which behaviors you might be exhibiting that are not getting you the women you want to get to know.
So i seek this women out without myself realizing it ?
Yes - it's not uncommon at all. The good news is that you are aware that you are not attracting the kind of woman that you want and YOU SEE the PATTERN that you want to change - you have taken the first step here - you now just need to follow up :)
Well i guess thats one good thing. It is a step in the right direction i suppose.
Yes it is - and I can't overstate how fortunate you are. I have many clients who continue a pattern and I can't get them to realize that they have the power to make things change.
Ok so is their some study? A book? Something that lets me know what im doing exactly that attracts them? its not that easy is it? I honestly feel more connected to older women who normally obviously have more life exp. With the exceptions as some younger ones are not immature.
Hmm prob your previous statement on a relationship therapist...prob would not hurt. As it seems im in the mental health area.