Good evening and thank you for the opportunity to help in answering your question. Based on the information you've provided it sounds as though your negative thought patterns are intruding on you from feelings of insecurities. Given the fact that you've likely been adorned over the course of your life and any relationships had during that course have typically been superficial and this superficiality has been reinforced over and over.
What I would suggest is a specific type of therapy which is based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. This approach explores one's thoughts and identifies the triggers and precipitants that prompt those thoughts. The thoughts are typically negative in nature and looking for faults in others based on perceptions you hold in your thoughts and not based on fact. This approach helps you to work toward looking at the events that occur in your life from a factual approach rather than a perceived one.
I would also like to suggest a workbook that is based on the same theory noted above. The book is also complete with exercises that help you to work toward the above mentioned approaches.
Here is the link to the workbook mentioned:
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