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You certainly should do what you feel is best. The source of her anger needs to be addressed at some point but right now she needs to understand that her words have repercussions. This is an important lesson to learn before she enters the work world. When she is receptive to addressing her anger you can then find out what these feelings are and why. Let her go with dad - he is a parent as you are. When she is more willing to look at why she feels this way talk about the reasons.
For now develop strong boundaries with her and let her know that you will not tolerate inappropriate behavior. Leave her with the invitation to discuss this as a family. Then she knows you are not abandoning her. You have to set limits whether 17 or 13. She will respect you for it later.
Going to bed now. Sorry