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Can help with relationship problems on this. I woulder how much time you have on this. To start I let an old girl friend move in afteer she broke-up her boyfriend of two years. She had the intention to become relationship with me. so in the last week I saw in her email, that I veiwed perseing another man. So I have been paying all her bills and expenses. there is more to this I dont know if there is time for this. trying to make some sence of this
It sounds like this girl is not intending on being faithful to you. She may be using you at this point so you will pay for her way until she finds another relationship to be in and therefore someone else to support her.
This may not be a situation you want to be involved in. You can ask her to leave if you wish to. There is no reason you cannot help her find alternative housing but just not with you.
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You can always tell her that your circumstances have changed and you cannot have a roommate right now. You can also say that you need help with the housing expenses which will probably cause her to move out since she does not probably want to contribute. Anything you can think of that is a good reason to be by yourself and tell her she needs to move on. You don't have to be angry or mean about it. Anything you tell her can be said in a gentle tone that is kind and friendly. Also, offer to help her find another place to stay. That will help as well.
I trying to make sence of my feelings knowning that I feel for her and would not just tall her to move on. under the circumstance's that should be.
I understand. But in this case, she is counting on your feelings for her so she can keep using you. If she felt the same for you as you feel for her, she would not be on the internet looking up sex sites and traveling to Vegas without talking to you.
This is what you need to keep in mind when you ask her to leave. There is nothing wrong with you asking her to go after you said she could stay as long as she wanted. She has not left when you both agreed she should at the beginning of the year and she is telling you she wants to be with you but yet she is using you and acting out with others. This is not what you agreed on I'm sure.
I understand you feel sad about it. It is normal for you to feel this way about the relationship. But this is not a healthy relationship for you to be in. Take time to mourn the relationship then move on to a healthier one.