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Of course not! I am happy to hear from you.
I would leave everything alone until she is done with the property and she no longer holds any legal rights to be on it (You may want to double check this with your attorney just to be sure). But my take would be that if you remove the stuff now and she has a right to still be on the property, then she can claim you stole her items as a way of getting back at her. The least amount of conflict you can have with her until the property reverts back to you, the better.
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You could ask the friend to move it in. Just be sure you have a witness to the interaction. I know it sounds overboard, but these things can get out of hand and escalate when emotions are involved and I am concerned about you getting hurt if they try to make an issue of it.
You could also ask her in writing (certified letter) to remove the items from the front porch. It may not get you anywhere, but it is worth a try.
It is ok that this bugs you. The lack of control you have at this point over the situation and the way your niece is treating you (as if it is your fault) can create a strong need to do anything to fix the situation so you can have some peace. You are having a very normal reaction to all of this. Many people experience heightened anxiety, sleep problems and other reactions when caught up in conflicts like this. It would be odd if you were not feeling this upset!
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That is some really great therapy you thought of! Gosh, I enjoyed reading that. I may have to borrow that idea from you to help other people.
Oh yes, you are being normal about this. Don't worry about that.
Your attitude about this is wonderful. Buy some really nice stuff and decorate the heck out of your porch. It will make you feel better. You could also buy a temporary privacy shade if that would help. Then when she leaves for good, you can take it down and sit out there and enjoy the peace and quiet.
I think I should be accepting your replies instead for making me laugh! That is some great therapy for your granddaughter as well. How wonderful for her to have someone like you in her life. She is truly blessed.
Have a good night,