My 13 year old has a new friend. Right after meeting the friend, she quit her long time sport. A few days later, I found out she joined a dating site on the internet (I have spyware).She did
this with the friend at the house. She was grounded from the computer. Then a week later she slept at another new friend's house (the best friend of this new girl - and yes, I did insist upon meeting the parents first). I was upset because they were out until 10 pm playing ding dong ditch (ringing bells and running). The next morning (she stayed home without friends) my husband I discovered her door locked at 6:30 am. We woke her and took her computer. On the computer I discovered that she had made 3 fake facebook accounts and she and these 2 girls were on all night friending people - including sexual comments. All 3 kids dowloaded pictures of emo girls (well, the original friend played a boy). When I confronted her , she admitted it -I asked if there was more than one. No, she swore. Oh yeah - after I reminded her there was another. I called one of the girls' mothers and told her about the fake pictures, but the orignial friend's mom couldn't be reached.
Girl 2's mom, on the phone, freaked out and thanked me - but she didn't send girl 1 home - and girl one (faking as the boy) continued again the next night. How do I know? because my daughter had a third fb account I found later and saw girl1's fake account posting all night.
I told my daughter she can't see this friend anymore unless I talk to the mother first. Girl 1 called and told me that her mom knows about it and doesn't care (I wouldn't be surprised if that were true!) I told my daughter that's it - she can't see her unless the mom comes over and talks - and then only under MY roof (and not until she's ungrounded).
My daughter is angry and wants to be allowed to see her friends. I know I'm right but I guess I need some more guidance. I should probably find a counselor for her to talk to, but she doesn't want to and Im not sure counseling is helpful when the person if forced.