Hi, I'd like to help you with your question.
There are several things you can do to help yourself. One, if you are not seeing a counselor for yourself or the counselor you have now if not helping, you can seek out a new therapist. To find a therapist, referrals work the best. Try talking with your doctor about who might be good to see. Or you can search on line at http://www.findatherapist.com.au/ or http://www.goodtherapy.com.au/find_a_therapist.php. A therapist with a Master's degree (M.Ed, MA, MSW or LSW) is the best option. You can also see someone with a Ph.D which is a person with a doctorate in Psychology.
You may also want to see your doctor to change medications. It is often the case that people who take medications must try several different medications before finding one that works (this is the case with any type of meds, including for physical conditions).
Two, you can educate yourself on your disorders. It may seem a bit simple, but even though you live with these disorders, there are many things to learn about them that could help you find solutions to feeling better. Often, the more you know the easier it is to help yourself. Here are some resources to help you:
Self-Coaching: The Powerful Program to Beat Anxiety and Depression, 2nd Edition, Completely Revised and Updated by Joseph J. Luciani
The Mindful Way through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness by XXXXX XXXXX, XXXXX Teasdale, Zindel Segal and Jon Kabat-Zinn
Overcoming Anxiety, Panic, and Depression: New Ways to Regain your Confidence by Arthur H. XXXXX, XXXXX Gardner
The OCD Workbook: Your Guide to Breaking Free from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder by Bruce M., Ph.D. Hyman and Cherry Pedrick
Brain Lock: Free Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior by Jeffrey M. Schwartz and Beverly Beyette
You can find these books on Amazon.com or your local library may have them for you.
You can also seek out support groups for yourself either in person or on line. Here are some links to help you:
Being under a lot of stress, especially with relationship issues, can cause you to feel overwhelmed and your symptoms to flare up. If you can (I know it's hard with little ones) try to take some time for yourself. A short vacation, an afternoon browsing at a store, dinner with friends, etc. Anything that can help with the stress will help you feel better and more able to tackle your diagnosis.
I hope this has helped you,