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Given your history, I would suggest that you reconsider the nature of your therapy altogether. That is, many "traditional therapists" use "talking therapy" which hinges on the notion that the client (you) gaining insight into their lives will somehow impact upon your mental health status (in your case, depression).
Unfortunately, there is little evidence that talking therapy is effective in doing this.
Have you considered working with a Cognitive-Behavioral Therapist? Research consistently demonstrates that CBT (often paired with medication, but not 100% necessarily) is the most effective form of treatment for depression and anxiety.
CBT works to address the thoughts/attitudes (Cognition) and actions (Behavior) that contribute to or maintain your depression/anxiety. You are taught (and practice) strategies to change your cognition and your behavior. There is homework. While a good CBT therapist is always easy to talk with, it is not necessary for you to have lengthy discussions about your childhood or relationship patterns or whatever else because the focus of the therapy is the mental health issue (depression/Bipolar II) and changes to cognition and behavior.
It is also possible, given the diagnostic history you provided, that the nature of your depression is more endogenous and life-long. In some cases, the therapeutic approach to this issue is to help the client adjust to the fact that "Happy" for him or her might never be as intense, frequent, or long-lasting as it is for more typical individuals. It's more a matter of adjusting to the disorder rather than trying to treat the disorder.
I hope this is somewhat helpful. I would strongly encourage you to find the therapist with strong Cognitive-Behavioral skills. Don't fall into the trap of engaging in endless banter and chit-chat... research demonstrates that not only is this approach inefficient and ineffective... in some cases it keeps clients STUCK. Ruminating on past problems or past behaviors or attitudes tends to keep them where they are - as opposed to acting to change those behaviors and attitudes.
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Thank you for your response. Please advise me of how I can find a well qualified cognitive behavioral therapist, preferably one who is gay, which would increase one another's ability to relate.
Thank you for your response. Please advise on how I can find a well qualified cognitive behavioral therapist, preferably one who is gay, also, in order to increase our ability to relate with one another.
I live in the suburbs north of Detroit, Michigan.
Good morning. I regret that it would be inappropriate to recommend a therapist with whom I have not had direct knowledge/contact. However, when I google "Detroit cognitive behavior therapy" there are a number of therapists available in the detroit metro area.
I'm sorry that I can't be of more help to you in that regard.
Another option would be for you to contact the closest Psychology Department at a college or university - because a majority of psychologists in academia are of the CBT persuasion.
Again, my apologies that I couldn't be of more help. I wish you the best of luck.