I believe my wife is depressed. For over a month, she has been lethargic, expresses feelings of hopelessness and decreased self-worth, and is increasingly angry. She sometimes sleeps more than 12 hours per day. I've seen her cry more in the last few months than I have in the total time I've known her. She has skipped social events or been exceptionally quiet or moody when we have met friends. Two nights ago she began crying uncontrollably and started vomiting. This was after taking two Xanex.
After that, I got scared. I called her GP and scheduled an appointment for her today. I told her last night that I was really worried about her and asked her to go to see her doctor today. She became furious and blamed me for putting her through some stressful events lately. (We have had a lot of stressful events lately - new job for me, moving into a smaller house, work events, travel, and we are seeking fertility treatment). Then she packed her bags and left to stay at her parents house.
She has agreed to go to the doctor (though she is convinced that he is going to tell her that all this is normal stress
from these life events). And she's said that she thinks I should go with her, which I am. I don't know what to expect. I'm worried about her and, frankly, I'm worried about us.
My question is: am I pushing too hard for her to get help? Should I back off and let her figure it out? Until now I've just tried to be supportive but the vomiting scared me and I decided to act. Should I tell her parents what's going on? Any advice would be appreciated.